Making Room for Baby:
Improving Sex Life After Having a Baby
Having a baby is supposed to bring two people closer together,
but it can also wreak havoc with your sex life. Making room for
baby doesn’t have to mean chucking your sex life out the
window. Here are a few tips for keeping your sex life healthy
and the romance alive after baby.
- Make sex a priority
The dishes can wait another 30 minutes or if you are really
lucky an hour to be done. Having a more fulfilling relationship
with your partner is more important than a spotless house. A
little procrastination can be good for your sex life.
- Make use of naptime
Steal some time for yourselves during those blissful moments
when your little angel is sleeping.
- Get out of the sexual rut
Don’t let sex be a chore. Get out of the bedroom and have
sex in fun and inventive places. Try having sex in your car,
in a tent in the backyard, the kitchen floor, on the sofa. Bring
yourself back to when you couldn’t keep your hands off
each other.
- Do something especially nice for each other
Arrange to bring home dinner so no one has to cook. Offer a
massage. Change a diaper without asking. Little things matter
in a relationship.
- Be playful
Leave love notes where your partner can find them. Leave naughty
voice mail messages on their cell phone. Start getting in the
mood for some loving even before you are in the same room together.
- Have some alone time together
It’s important for parents to steal away at least a few
guilt free hours from their child. This is time for the parents
to get back in touch with each other.
- Be honest, but kind
If you are starting to worry about a decrease in your romantic
activities than you should tell your partner. Use the word “I”
and “we” and avoid the word “you.” This
means telling your partner, “I am worried that we are
no longer being intimate. What do you think we can do to change
this? ” Don’t fall into the emotional pitfalls of
blame and guilt. Likely you both still find each other very
desirable, but are having trouble finding the time and energy
to be intimate.
- Don’t underestimate the power of touch
A certain type of playful caress or a more intimate type of
fondling can easily bring out the sexual being in a tired partner.
- Do stress releasing activities together
Take a warm bubble bath together. Take turn massaging each others
shoulders.
- Don’t forget that you are an attractive and
desirable human being
Even though you may be covered in baby food and neither of you
have slept in a month you can still be desirable to each other.
Be confident in your attractiveness. Confidence is a very appealing
quality.
Continuing to have a good sex life is an incredibly important
part of maintaining a healthy relationship with your partner.
With a little prioritization and a smidge of time management you
can keep the flame alive.
